I completed the Landmark Forum two weeks ago — it was one of the most eye opening seminars I could put myself through. Landmark is an international personal and professional growth, training and development company. The Forum was an intense four day course – 9am until 10pm, Friday, Saturday, Sunday and then a wrap up session on Tuesday night.
When my friend Cameron invited me to check it out, I thought to myself in a very skeptical manner, “I am fine! Do I even need this!!!?” I read all the self-development books (hello Brene Brown, Eckhart Tolle, Don Miguel Ruiz, Celestine Prophecy, Marianne Williamson, etc), I practice yoga and take time to be reflective and “conscious”. I see an INCREDIBLE life coach/counselor on a regular basis and my life is pretty much running smoothly. I don’t have any drug addictions, I don’t turn to alcohol to self-medicate, I wasn’t abused as a child, and although my parents were tragically taken from me — I don’t let that define me, or carry around their accident like some toxic baggage.
But going through the Forum was like splashing ice-cold water on A LOT of my behaviors. Behaviors that are hindering me from having the life I truly want and desire. I came to see how “shackled” I was. I was being in-authentic about my authenticity. I was doing things to either “look good” or “avoid looking bad”. I realized how much of my life, I was seeing through the ridiculous stories that I had created in my head, versus viewing things as merely happening. I was putting my “interpretation” on every event that came my way — and adding unnecessary meaning in every one of those interpretations. Meanings that ended up causing a lot of heartache, headaches and frustration – which all could have been avoided if I had only gotten out of the crazy stories I was swimming in.
Soul Carrier’s whole message is about being authentic, about doing the things that light up your soul and being able to honestly and genuinely answer the question “Where do you want to go!?” But after Landmark I realized how I needed to come clean and get real about my in-authenticity. I was spewing something I wasn’t living.
My core values have always been freedom, authenticity and the ability to inspire and touch lives. But I wasn’t being authentic in a lot of areas of my life. And with no authenticity there is no freedom. And there is truly nothing I desire more than to be able to be 100% authentically me!
On the eve of a national holiday based in freedom, I pose the questions of how free are you? We live in an incredible country and we have been granted incredible freedoms and opportunities – and yet how many of us are still shackled to behaviors that keep us from living life fully? How many of us are slaves to the noise that tell you to live life in a way other than the way you want to live it!? How many of us are in a straight-jacket of performing, pleasing and acting in a way in order to look good? How many of us only do things to avoid looking bad?
That my dear souls is NOT freedom. Get authentic about your in-authentic ways! It’s the only way to truly experience freedom.
Happy Fourth of July! I am so proud to be an American and live in this land of insane opportunities. So many men and women sacrificed everything in order for us to live in this great land– honor them by truly living a free life.