I try and limit my TV intake, but I have to admit my guilty pleasure totally is the tv show Scandal. I even named one of my bags after the leading lady “Olivia” Pope.  I am highly entertained by watching Olivia Pope storm off and proclaim “IT IS HANDLED!” when facing a difficult task to overcome.

But what I love most about the Olivia Pope character is her determination to rely on her own intuition. She is often heard spouting the line “My gut tells me everything I need to know.”

Intuition is a fascinating thing to me — it has taken me a very long time to finally trust mine. For a long time I let other people’s intuition guide me. I would blindly swallow, and often believe, everything they had to say, simply because they said it — even when what they said was NOT in my best interest.

I would find myself in situations where other people would use the line “My intuition is telling me you need to _____ x” or “My intuition is saying this will or will not happen in your life Jenn”. I always found those lines unsettling. And my soul wrestled with what was being presented to me.

I never want to be narscistic and act like I know it all. Instead, I want to be able to be grounded enough, to hear people out, and then run what they say through the filter of my own soul without getting defensive. But still, those intuition comments always rubbed me the wrong way and left me feeling agitated.

I shared these agitations with Marion, an incredible woman, I bounce things off of— and what she shared with me gave me total clarity.

Intution is your OWN inner guide. Intuition is unique to each one of us. It is our own-inner-personal-wisdom for guiding us through life. But when people say they have “an intuition” in regards to someone else’s life that is not intuition but rather a comment, an opinion, an observation about that other person’s life. And more often than not, it is a way to pass “judgement” on a situation that has been thinly guised as “intuition.”

When your intuition is telling you something in regards to how you should interact with another person – then that is totally valid, because that is YOUR inner wisdom guiding you on how to behave.

But using the term “I had an intuition….” when it comes to telling another person about THEIR life can be misconstrued as if you were given some wisdom that the other person isn’t privy to — but that isn’t how intuition works! It is there for each of us – but we can’t use our intuition on another person!  YOUR intuition is for you, and you only — it doesn’t apply to another person ;-)!

We don’t get to tell other people how to live their life in the name of intuition.

Furthermore, just because someone states some words, does not make them an “authority” figure on your life. You are the AUTHORITY figure on YOUR LIFE. Words are cheap. Real value resides in actions and behaviors. How is the person, who is doling out the “intuition advice”, living their life? Are they impeccable with their words? Do they have integrity with how they show up in life? What are their intentions for giving you all this advice?

It is a whole lot easier to be in the stands judging and commenting on how someone else is living their life, than on the court living your own life. It takes less energy to tell someone else how to conduct their life than to go out and create your own life. But creating your own life truly is the only way to live. You cannot live through another soul.

Can you stand in your own truth even when someone else is pushing for theirs? Can you refrain from using your intution as a way to tell someone else how to live? Can you just BE you and let the other person just BE them?

To listening to our own intution + NO ONE ELSE’s. To living life from soul. To being authentic to your truth above all else.

“It is handled!” I am listening to my OWN intuition from now on 😉 Thank you Miss Olivia Pope!

Gladiators on the court of life!

Jenn